Today I want to share one of my favorite parables with you. Whether you have seen it before, or it is new to you- enjoy.
People filled with self-contempt project their feelings onto others and then become angry with the person holding their projection. In other words, they assume others judge them as harshly as they judge themselves and this makes them furious. They do not realize that the judgments that anger them are coming from within. They may retaliate and act out in aggressive ways, never knowing that they are reacting to their own version of reality.
If you suffer from chronic anger, look within. Letting go of bitterness, resentment, and harsh self-judgments will improve all of your relationships. It may just save your life.
Don’t Allow Anyone to Knock You Down!
“Somehow we learn who we really are and then live that decision.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
Unfortunately, way too many people learned that they were something that they are not- and then they learned to live with that decision. [Read more...]
We’re Never Too Old
I often tell my clients- You are never too old to achieve your dreams. Just Go For It!
Isn’t this great! 88 years old. The expression on the man’s face says it all.
“I wouldn’t have passed computers if it hadn’t been for the kids’ help,” he said. “Don’t forget, when I was born, our home did not have electricity, no indoor plumbing, I had to go to a one-room school house and that had no indoor plumbing.” -Bob Zonneville, an 88-year-old World War II veteran and Lakeland Community College graduate.
Here is the link to the story.
Photo Credit: Jeff Forman/News-Harold
- World War II vet Bob Zonneville gets diploma as Lakeland’s oldest graduate (historychannelfromthewar.com)
What Can You Change?
When my brother was two he learned how to ride a little trike bike. He would zoom all over the house with his eyes focused on the pedals rather than on where he was going. One day he was so focused on making those pedals go around and around that he ran right into a wall. [Read more...]
Are you addicted?
Do you feel absorbed with the internet?
Do you feel unsatisfied unless you increase your time online?
Are you unable to control your internet use?
Do you become anxious and depressed when you reduce the amount of time that you spend online?
Do you stay online longer than you intended?
Has your internet use put your job or your relationships at risk?
Have you lied about how much time you spend online?
Do you use the internet to escape your feelings and to avoid emotional pain?
If you answered yes to most of these questions, you may have an internet addiction. Whether you are a native to internet use and have been using it all of your life, or are an internet immigrant like me, we can all agree that internet use makes so many things in our lives easier.
But as most of you know, it has its drawbacks, too. Studies show that the most successful internet users are able to set limits on their internet use. They live a balanced life.
The internet is indeed an amazing tool. We just need to make sure that other areas in our life do not suffer as a result of being overly connected and therefore disconnected.
What are your thoughts? Do you believe that internet addiction is real? Is it a mental health disorder?
I used to spend so much time responding and reacting to others, trying to figure out who they wanted me to be. My focus was on how I could be pleasing to them, never stopping to consider whether they were pleasing to me. As long as they liked me, I was okay- or so I thought.
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