Monthly Archives: May 2012

Great Expectations Within the Marriage

Written by Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed., MSW, LCSW

Several years ago, I attended a marriage workshop along with my husband.  This was not the first one that I had ever attended, nor will it be the last.  These workshops not only provide me information and tools that help me better my own marriage, but they also benefit those who come to me for counseling. Continue reading

14 Fair Fighting Rules

Written by Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed., MSW, LCSW

Counseling couples, I am often  amazed at the horrible way many partners speak to one another.  They say things to each other that they would not dream of saying to an enemy, let alone the person that they claim to love.  Many people come to view their partner as an extension of themself; saying whatever it is that comes to mind with little concern or awareness of how it actually affects the other person.  Over time, these harmful interactions build, and contempt enters the relationship.  Once contempt is present, there is no place left for love to dwell.

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Emotional Regulation: Getting Your Emotions Out of the Driver’s Seat

Written by Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed., MSW, LCSW

How do you handle distress?  Do you remain in control, or do you react in destructive ways?  Your emotions are valid; but you, and only you, are responsible for your reactions.  No one made you do it. 

When you become angry, lonely, frustrated, impatient, or hurt, do you have a pattern of acting out in a way that usually results in regret? Continue reading