Are you holding on to something that is prohibiting you from moving forward in life? Are you stuck in the past, missing the moment? Are you willing to allow your past to destroy your present and your future?
Following painful experiences, we all need time to grieve. In the beginning, we may deny the experience because the reality is just too difficult to accept. We may become angry and feel depressed. These feelings may be brief or they may last awhile, depending on the severity of the loss or experience. Allow yourself this time and find support so that you do not have to grieve alone. Sharing your pain can actually accelerate the healing process.
If you allow yourself to feel your feelings without judging them as good or bad, you will eventually come to a crossroads- radical acceptance or living in the pain. If you choose the path of acceptance, you acknowledge that life as you knew it has changed. You let go of an old way of life, willing to embrace new experiences that have yet to unfold. This path of radical acceptance will allow you to experience joy again.
The other path is the path that I call living in the pain. This road is the road of rumination. Thoughts about how things use to be consume the mind. The present moment is lost and the mind is shut to future opportunities. This path will prohibit you from experiencing the joy life has to offer.
Radical acceptance is often difficult, but necessary if one is to move forward in life. It is accepting the things that you cannot change no matter how much you want to change them. It is about letting go of what was in order to experience what is and what will be.