It is great to meet you! I am excited that you are here. Let me tell you a little bit about who I am, and what I hope to do. Sit back and relax, I hope that you stay awhile.
Over the past twenty-two years, I have worked to bring positive change to others in my community. I have worked as an elementary school teacher, a middle school teacher, a licensed psychotherapist, a Girl Scout leader, and a Sunday school teacher inspiring others through love, support, and education. Currently, I am counseling children, teens, and adults in a private practice setting. My experience also includes working for a nonprofit organization, a community mental health center, and an acute inpatient psychiatric hospital. Recently, I decided to expand what I bring through social media, hoping to reach a much larger section of society.
What I believe: God loves us. We are never truly alone. We have worth and we are lovable, but we often get in our own way. I believe that life ebbs and flows, and that bad times will pass. I believe in the power of positive thinking combined with faith and action.
My mission is to ENCOURAGE, MOTIVATE, INSPIRE AND EDUCATE people to live more fulfilling lives, one baby step at a time. Let’s make one change, no matter how small, and let’s build on it. Let’s take baby steps. Let’s keep going. Let’s look at things in new ways. Let’s expand our vision. Let’s learn new skills. Let’s grow.
My philosophies about happiness, success, peace, love, and change
Happiness: Our happiness is not 100% dependent on other people. Much of our happiness depends on our outlook and on the activities that we pursue in our lives. Some studies have shown that 50% of happiness is due to predisposition, 10% life circumstances, and 40% actions and attitudes. This is good news! Our attitudes and intentional activities are four times more important than our actual circumstances when determining our overall level of happiness. Studies have shown that activities such as praying, attending religious services, exercising daily, keeping a gratitude journal, and reframing hardships as blessings can really influence a person’s level of happiness. So one of my WAKE UP call questions to those that believe that their happiness is 100% dependent on others is… What are YOU doing to improve your overall well-being?
Success: It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Think of the story, The Little Engine that Could. Think of Walter Wintle’s poem, The Man Who Thinks He Can. Think about The Tortoise and the Hare. The tortoise just didn’t give up! You would be amazed at what we can learn from children’s books. (Is it obvious that I used to teach elementary school?)
Peace: Living with integrity brings peace. When our actions match our values, we are able to experience peace.
Love: God loves each of us. God wants us to know that we have worth. God wants us to love ourselves and love others. Learning to love ourselves enables us to better love others. Without self-love we go around projecting all of our own self-contempt (harsh judgments, criticisms…) onto everyone else. If we love ourselves, we spread love. If we are full of contempt, we spread criticism, negativity, and judgments. True self-love is rooted in security. Narcissistic love is rooted in deep feelings of inadequacy. Individuals who are filled with true self-love are able to spread genuine love to others.
Change: Change is hard. I think I should say that again. CHANGE IS HARD! But by making one small change, it becomes less overwhelming. That small change will get the momentum going for more change to occur. I call this the snowball effect. You do not complete the puzzle until you put down the first piece. It doesn’t even matter which piece you put down first. Just put it down- it is a start. Many times our fear stops us from making needed change. Fight fear with faith and take the first step.
WELCOME! I AM SO GLAD THAT YOU DECIDED TO JOIN ME AS WE IMPROVE OUR LIVES, ONE BABY STEP AT A TIME, ONE BLOG POST AT A TIME!