About Kristin

It is great to meet you!  I am excited that you are here.  Let me tell you a little bit about who I am, and what I hope to do.  Sit back and relax, I hope that you stay awhile.

Over the past twenty-two years, I have worked to bring positive change to others in my community.  I have worked as an elementary school teacher, a middle school teacher, a licensed psychotherapist, a Girl Scout leader, and a Sunday school teacher inspiring others through love, support, and education.  Currently, I am counseling children, teens, and adults in a private practice setting.  My experience also includes working for a nonprofit organization, a community mental health center, and an acute inpatient psychiatric hospital.  Recently, I decided to expand what I bring through social media, hoping to reach a much larger section of society.

What I believe: God loves us.  We are never truly alone.  We have worth and we are lovable, but we often get in our own way.  I believe that life ebbs and flows, and that bad times will pass.  I believe in the power of positive thinking combined with faith and action.

My Mission

My mission is to ENCOURAGE, MOTIVATE, INSPIRE AND EDUCATE people to live more fulfilling lives, one baby step at a time.  Let’s make one change, no matter how small, and let’s build on it.  Let’s take baby steps.  Let’s keep going.  Let’s look at things in new ways.  Let’s expand our vision.  Let’s learn new skills.  Let’s grow.

My philosophies about happiness, success, peace, love, and change

Happiness:  Our happiness is not 100% dependent on other people.  Much of our happiness depends on our outlook and on the activities that we pursue in our lives.  Some studies have shown that 50% of happiness is due to predisposition, 10% life circumstances, and 40% actions and attitudes.  This is good news! Our attitudes and intentional activities are four times more important than our actual circumstances when determining our overall level of happiness. Studies have shown that activities such as praying, attending religious services, exercising daily, keeping a gratitude journal, and reframing hardships as blessings can really influence a person’s level of happiness.  So one of my WAKE UP call questions to those who believe that their happiness is 100% dependent on others is..What are you doing to improve your overall well-being?

Success:  It is a self-fulfilling prophecy.  Think of the story, The Little Engine that Could.  Think of Walter Wintle’s poem, The Man Who Thinks He Can.  Think about The Tortoise and the Hare. The tortoise just didn’t give up!  You would be amazed at what we can learn from children’s books. (Is it obvious that I used to teach elementary school?)

Peace:  Living with integrity brings peace.  When our actions match our values, we are able to experience peace.

Love: Learning to love ourselves enables us to better love others.  Without self-love we go around projecting all of our own self-contempt (harsh judgments, criticisms…) onto everyone else.  If we love ourselves, we spread love.  If we are full of contempt, we spread criticism, negativity, and judgments.  True self-love is rooted in security.  Narcissistic love is rooted in deep feelings of inadequacy.  Individuals who are filled with true self-love are able to spread genuine love to others.

Change: Change is hard. I think I should say that again. CHANGE IS HARD! But by making one small change, it becomes less overwhelming. That small change will get the momentum going for more change to occur. I call this the snowball effect. You do not complete the puzzle until you put down the first piece. It doesn’t even matter which piece you put down first.  Just put it down- it is a start.  Many times our fear stops us from making needed change.  Fight fear with faith and take the first step.



  1. Elizabeth Dye

    Your blog looks great! I’ve enjoyed reading your posts, it’s given me pertinent reminders! Sounds like you are enjoying your work/family balance. Hope to run into you soon! Elizabeth Dye

  2. letlifeinpractices

    Thank you so much for the kind words of encouragement and for following the blog. If you sign up to follow or hit the facebook ‘like’ icon, I think you should get an e-mail when I post. We are all a work in progress and I remind myself of important things in life as I am reminding others. Thanks for reading.

    1. Dan Leeker


      I hope I am doing this right. I have never blogged. I have committed myself to reading a text dedicated to changing ones perspective about how to look upon others, oneself, the world, and the universe. It’s a challenging task and it’s not an easy read. I often come across words or concepts that I feel a need to understand more deeply. As such, I explored the concept of self- contempt, which ultimately lead me to google self- contempt quotes, which lead me to you.

      Thank you so much for deciding to expand your reach through social media. Your ability to communicate clearly and concisely has been extraordinarily helpful to me, simplifying the sometimes dense and challenging text I chose to immerse myself in.


      1. Kristin Barton Cuthriell Post author

        Thank you so much for commenting on my blog! Your kind words put a smile on my face. I am so glad that you find the information here beneficial. In my forthcoming book, The Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life, I have included a very clear, easy to digest chapter entirely on self-contempt and the importance of letting it go, along with tips on how to do that. The book should come out in January. You can also sign up to receive future blog posts. (No charge) I admire your willingness to grow! Opening the mind to new perspectives takes great courage! I am glad that your search lead you to my blog. Welcome. :)
        I hope you have a terrific day! Kristin

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  4. Ian Gardner

    Hello Kristin, if you feel inclined do go to the home site of my writings because they will add another dimension to your work; a dimension not taught in universities etc.
    May you benefit many through your work,
    P.S. There is no need to reply to this :-)

  5. leigh

    Kristin, your blog is awesome! I have just begun a blog of my own for the very same reason as you! Except, from a patient’s perspective. I have been on the other side of those group sessions, learning all kinds of lessons that saved my life. I won’t lie, I owe the hospital enough to buy a good-sized home, but having the kind of help that you have been offering throughout your career was more than worth it. You can’t put a price on life! I’m glad I found your blog! My hope is to share what I have learned in mine as well!

      1. zeebradesigns

        my art students have always taught me a lot as well. it’s obvious that you’re one of the good guys. the world needs more good guys who don’t keep a score card; they spread goodness because it’s the right thing to do! z

      1. Indira

        You are always welcome dear. I’m sorry for a little spelling mistake ,it’s hear not here,hope you didn’t mind.

  6. keerthikasingaravel

    Thanks for your Like.I loved receiving it!
    I’m glad you stopped by my blog otherwise I daresay I wouldn’t have found yours.
    May I say how much I love your work?I have just been reading your post on expectations in a marriage.
    I hope to revisit many times and enjoy myself vastly.

  7. debbrunson

    What a well written blog so full of practical, useful information!! I’m not sure how you stumbled upon my blog but I’m thrilled that you did because now I’ve connected to yours :) Thank you~

  8. Shelly

    Kristin, is there a way to navigate your site so I can read your posts from start to finish? I’m not finding a link to the next post…

    1. Kristin Barton Cuthriell

      I just made some adjustments to my site. Go to the homepage and look over in the sidebar for my older posts, beginning in January. You can also scroll to the bottom of the homepage screen and hit older posts, but that will give them to you beginning with the most recent. Let me know if going to older posts on the sidebar helps. Thank you for asking. Have a great day :)

      1. Shelly

        yes, thanks! The really good blogs I find I want to read from beginning to present so I’m ‘caught up’! I hope you’re having a great day as well.

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  10. Subhan Zein

    As an educator and therapist you must have had remarkable experiences with you, Kristin. Great meeting you in the blogosphere! :-)

    Many blessings and much love to you. :-)


    Subhan Zein

  11. reneeboomer

    Hi Kristin, Nice to meet you. Thank you for following my blog. You have a terrific blog as well and I will follow your blog as well. I will be back to read more. Have a wonderful Saturday. Renee :)

  12. Subhan Zein

    Hi Kristin,

    Your blog is inspirational. Keep all the great stuff coming, my friend! I am happy to have followed your blog. And I also am honored to have you following my blog. Thank you!

    I hope my blog is not disappointing for you. Many blessings and much love to you, my friend. :-)


    Subhan Zein

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  15. pjb1943

    Hello Kristin,
    Let me introduce myself. My name is Paul Barton. I came upon your blogsite while reading another blog. Lately I seem to be finding Bartons all over the place…, Indiana, California, Kentucky, Texas, and now I must ask…, where are you from? Like your site and find much of the information you provide helpful and interesting. Please feel free to visit on my site if/when you may find time.
    Best to you,

      1. pjb1943

        Virginia…, another state added to the list. I have been doing genealogy for years and it’s a funny thing. I have traced 3 sides of my immediate family but the Bartons (mine) are just a dead end thing. I can get to my great grandfather and that’s all. I have a connection to Virginia through the Meade family of that state that goes back to the late 1600s of colonial times. There was a plantation home in the far southeast part of the state (almost North Carolina). I know…., I’m rambling. Enough!

  16. ajaytao2010

    Thanks Kristin for visiting my blog, be in touch with my blog browse through the categories, u will find it interesting maybe on Psychoanalysis or Spirituality.

    Be in touch

  17. Robert Sylvester

    I am surprised about how secular your “About” is. Have you never noticed that you have spoken as if the human person controls all? Ironically, this is the dominant illusion and creates real disorders. We are not omnipotent. You might want to think about this.


    1. Kristin Barton Cuthriell

      Thank you so much for your comments. You have given me a lot to think about, and I have gone back to read my “About” page. I really do appreciate the feedback. I agree with you that we as humans are not omnipotent. We are not all powerful, perfect, or all knowing. I do, however, believe that we have the power to accept God into our lives or to reject His love. I also believe that we have free will. I personally believe that strong faith leads to a happier life, but people do have the power to choose. God opens the door, but we have to let Him in. Many people come to counseling with the belief that they have no power at all. They believe that their happiness is 100% dependent on other people. They are not aware of the many things that they can do to improve their lives- growing in faith is often one of them. I do not have a formal education in theology- as you do. You could probably teach me a lot. Thank you so much. Your feedback is appreciated. I will continue to think. :) Kristin

  18. AadiRohilla

    Hi Kristin, your blogs looks really great with some good posts and i really liked your blog!! Glad to meet you and you’ve a new follower. Happy to follow you.
    Hugs and love

    Happy New Year 2013

  19. Subhan Zein

    Hello Kristin,

    I hope it is not too late to wish you a wonderful New Year. May 2013 bring you more happiness, love, and success. I would like to thank you because you continue following my blog. I hope my short stories and poems do not disappoint and that your visits in there have been a joyful ride. I need to let you know that my subscription went messed up, and now I am resubscribing, looking forward to reading more of your posts! Thank you again, many blessings and much love to you, Kristin.. :-)

    Subhan Zein

  20. photographymemoirs

    Greetings Kristin, I love how you are trying to impact people in a healthy way so that they can look to life in a more positive frame of mind. I sincerely wish you all the best in your life’s’ journey of helping others, a true labour of love.
    God bless you in every way.

  21. teasbook

    Hi, Kristen! I enjoy your blog so much… I nominated you for the Liebster Award! Head on over to my blog and check out “Well would you look at that… / And now… the nominees to follow what to do next! :) God Bless!

  22. Christopher Snell

    Greetings from a kindred spirit… may the path before you, be sprinkled with the enrichment of love’s empowerment, as your inner guide continues to lead you to your heart’s enlightenment.

  23. Jennifer

    I have read your comments on Marty’s blog C PSTD A Way Out and he shared your link with me. I have enjoyed your comments on his blog and am so happy to be a part of yours. What I am most impressed with is the fact that you, from what I’ve seen always acknowledge those who comment. That is so thoughtful to know that our words and thoughts are read and you must be overwhelmed with the number of your followers to keep up!

    From a woman’s standpoint I really appreciate the various topics you cover, especially the one about loving someone and fall in love.

    Thank you.

  24. Lead Our Lives

    Just found you through a re-blog of one of your posts by a blogger I follow. There is definitely light here…in you and what you offer! Looking forward to reading more of your posts. Life is good…and the ways in which we engage its challenges can make the difference in the very texture of our path ahead. ;)

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