Category Archives: Goal Setting

6 Steps to Move Through Fear

cropped-draft-cover.jpgOur fear so often holds us back from being all that we were meant to be. We fear what tomorrow might bring, we fear rejection, we fear failure, we fear looking foolish, we fear stepping out of our comfort zone and doing something that might just impact our lives and our world in an incredible way.

We play it safe and sit on the sidelines forgetting that life is not a spectator sport. Rather than embracing each day with passion and purpose, we underestimate our strength, our ability, our resilience, our power to make a difference in the lives of others, and our power to make a difference in the world.

There is something uniquely special about each on of us, but we often hold ourselves back from the excellence that resides within. If we are to live up to our true potential and be the person that we were created to be, we must find a way to move through the fear that keeps us immobilized and stops us from building positive momentum in our lives.

Listed below are 6 steps to help you move through the fear so that you can live a more productive, passionate, and purposeful life. (Notice the phrase “move through the fear” is used instead of “fight fear.” This is intentional. You see, many people fight fear by denying fear, and when something is denied, it won’t be changed. See step one.) Continue reading

20 Things That Bring Out Your Best

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Henry Ford said, “My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.”

Are you your own best friend? Do you bring out the best in you? Are you trying to reach your full potential or are you settling for a life of mediocrity? Are you ready to grow through life or are you just planning to go through life?

We cannot expect someone else to bring out the best in us, while we continue to sabotage ourselves.

Yes, part of being your own best friend involves picking other friends who lift you up. But that is just part of it. What else can you do to reach your full potential?

Below you will find a list of 20 things you can do to bring out your best. (They are in no particular order.) Continue reading

Hint: You AREN’T the Enemy.

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Do you feel like your most sought-after personal goals are always just on the horizon, but never quite attainable? Maybe you beat yourself up each time you “fail” and say things like, ” I always do this,” or “It’s all my fault.” And even when you do get back up on the horse, you’re mentally poised to fail again…so you do.

That’s what we call a self-fulfilling prophecy. In order to break the cycle and find victory you have to recognize the true enemy– Continue reading

Forget the Shrieking Monkeys

Li Bai, a great poet from China’s Tang Dynasty, composed a very famous poem:

Sailing early from Baidi Town

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“This morning, I departed the town of Baidi, engulfed by vibrant clouds.

I return to far away Jiangling within a single day.

From both banks, the steady sound of shrieking monkeys fills the air.

Our little boat has already carried me past thousands of hilltops.”

Our greatest and most valuable journeys are often the ones with the most ups and downs.

When we first get started, motivation is high and the whole world seems as though it is “engulfed by vibrant clouds.” But as we approach the middle of the journey and the initial sparkle fades, it gets tougher to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Self-critical thoughts come at us from both sides like shrieking monkeys. Don’t listen to them.

It is during this time of fear and self-doubt that we must make the biggest effort to persevere in order to experience personal growth. Before we know it, we will have reached our destination and passed “thousands of hilltops” along the way.

Have a wonderful afternoon and keep at it!- Kristin

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Letting Go of Harsh Self-Judgments: The Eight Steps to Change. Step 1.

We speak often about the perils of negative self-talk and the importance of living a lifestyle of radical acceptance. When you step back and simply view your feelings for what they are without critical self-judgement, you open a world of possibility for yourself. That world is one in which you have the freedom to create the positive momentum that gives The Snowball Effect its name. How can you free yourself from the negativity that produces self-fulfilling prophecies and lack of progress? Baby steps.

Over the next 8 weeks, we’re going to look at 8 steps to take for letting go of harsh self-judgments and living a life of self-compassion. You may have to spend more time on some of these steps than others, and that’s ok! You will be successful in changing your attitude, especially if you keep in mind that success doesn’t always look like an inclined plane. It looks more like a staircase with two steps up, one step back, two steps up, one step back. If you do not stop climbing when you take a step back, you will get to where you are going.

Without further ado, here’s step one.

1. Acknowledging what you want to change.

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Begin by acknowledging something you want to change. You can’t change anything until you know what it is that you want to change. So by acknowledging that you want to treat yourself better, you have already taken the first step in the change process.

Perhaps this is where you are right now. If so, congratulations! I believe that this first step of acknowledgment is the most transformative step of all as it takes a surprising amount of courage to ‘admit you have a problem.’

Is there a specific area of your life like career, health, or family, where you tend to beat yourself up the most? Focus on that. Acknowledge, without judgement, that it’s time for a change.

Next week we’ll conquer Step 2: Becoming deeply aware.

Have a fantastic weekend!- Kristin