Category Archives: Relationships

My New Book: Now Available on Amazon

smaller coverThe Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life is NOW AVAILABLE!

My book just went live on Amazon and is in stock now! To get the book, click on this link: The Snowball Effect on Amazon 

I am so excited about this! If you like the book, please leave a positive review on Amazon! (And tell your friends, too!) I so appreciate you and think you will really like the book and find it extremely beneficial, practical, and uplifting!

The Snowball Effect identifies the various pitfalls in life that cause us to spiral down and provides us with powerful tools to turn our momentum around. Through personal stories, compelling case examples, and researched techniques, educator and psychotherapist Kristin Barton Cuthriell shows us how to live a positive, productive, and joyful life regardless of our situation and circumstances.

“The Snowball Effect offers a unique perspective on what it takes to move forward through life in the most productive and positive way.” -Chrisanna Northrup, New York Times bestseller

“I highly recommend this book…the lessons provide specific and precise tools for people wanting to clear out the negative and learn to focus on the positive gifts in life.” -Marney A. White, PhD, MS, Associate Professor of Psychiatry, Yale University School of Medicine

The Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life  will show you how to:

  • Let go of resentment, harsh self-judgments, and explosive reactions.
  • Face your fears and live your dreams without becoming overwhelmed.
  • Have better relationships with others.
  • Take baby steps to move forward though life.
  • Live with gratitude and fully appreciate the moment.

Here is to you living a happy and healthy life full of positive momentum!

xoxo,

Kristin

10 Relationship Tips to Remember

relationshipsMy parents are approaching their 50th wedding anniversary and my in-laws almost made it to 60 years before my father-in-law passed away last year. I believe we can learn a lot from people who have been together for half a century or more. The grace, the tolerance, the forgiveness, the sacrifice, and the hard work. The joy, the sharing, the trust, the courage to be vulnerable, the willingness to communicate. A relationship is not going to last without all of those things.

Some relationships don’t last- the brokenness is just too great. Patterns are repeated over and over again. Continue reading

How to Let Go of Resentment

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How to Let Go of Resentment

Is resentment holding you back from living a more peaceful, joyful, and confident life? Do you feel like you have been wronged, judged, or mistreated in some way? Do you ruminate about it and play it over and over in your head? Do you feel your anger increasing the more this internal tape is played?

The purpose of this post is to

  1. Tell you that you are not alone!
  2. Help you let go of resentment.

First of all, you are not alone! People filled with resentment fill the waiting room of the psychotherapy practice where I work everyday. Millions of others are drowning in resentment and get no help at all. We all feel resentment from time to time. We have all been hurt, judged, and rejected at some point in our lives. Unfortunately, this is part of being human. We are going to experience joy and pain as life ebbs and flows.

You may be thinking, “Yes, we all experience pain, but you have no idea what I have been through!” 

You’re right. I don’t. I can’t even imagine! If you told me your situation, I could try to imagine and I could empathize, but I have not experienced the exact same thing as you. Even when two people share a similar experience such as a history of abuse, divorce, infidelity, or the loss of a loved one, their situations differ and they experience the crisis differently.

Although we each experience our pain, anger, and frustration in our own way, and some of us have experienced more trauma and pain than others, we have all been hurt and there are things that we can do to help release the resentment that takes up residence in our hearts and in our minds.

Release the resentment that resides within. The only thing worse than someone else hurting you in the past, is for you to continue to hurt yourself for the rest of your life. Your resentment poisons YOU, not the one who harmed you.

If you are tired of being angry and resentful, here is what you can do. Continue reading

Is Shame at the Root of Your Pain?

shameIs Shame at the Root of Your Pain?

My client remembers being shamed in the fourth grade. She was standing outside of her school with several friends and their parents after a holiday musical program. She said that her mother looked down on her smiling face and announced in front of the group, “What are we going to do with those teeth? They are such a mess!” My client said that the group they were standing with immediately got quiet and everyone glanced at her mouth. She said that while the other parents were raving about the program, her mother was calling attention to her flaws and imperfections. She remembers wanting to hide. Continue reading