Category Archives: Self-Esteem

My New Book: Now Available on Amazon

smaller coverThe Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life is NOW AVAILABLE!

My book just went live on Amazon and is in stock now! To get the book, click on this link: The Snowball Effect on Amazon 

I am so excited about this! If you like the book, please leave a positive review on Amazon! (And tell your friends, too!) I so appreciate you and think you will really like the book and find it extremely beneficial, practical, and uplifting!

The Snowball Effect identifies the various pitfalls in life that cause us to spiral down and provides us with powerful tools to turn our momentum around. Through personal stories, compelling case examples, and researched techniques, educator and psychotherapist Kristin Barton Cuthriell shows us how to live a positive, productive, and joyful life regardless of our situation and circumstances.

“The Snowball Effect offers a unique perspective on what it takes to move forward through life in the most productive and positive way.” -Chrisanna Northrup, New York Times bestseller

“I highly recommend this book…the lessons provide specific and precise tools for people wanting to clear out the negative and learn to focus on the positive gifts in life.” -Marney A. White, PhD, MS, Associate Professor of Psychiatry, Yale University School of Medicine

The Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life  will show you how to:

  • Let go of resentment, harsh self-judgments, and explosive reactions.
  • Face your fears and live your dreams without becoming overwhelmed.
  • Have better relationships with others.
  • Take baby steps to move forward though life.
  • Live with gratitude and fully appreciate the moment.

Here is to you living a happy and healthy life full of positive momentum!

xoxo,

Kristin

12 Ways to Handle the Emotional Side of Job Loss and Job Search

job lossLosing a job or facing rejection after rejection while searching for a job can wreak havoc on your self-esteem. Insecurities come alive, defenses build, anger thrives, depression may even set in. The questions “Am I worthy?” and “Am I good enough?” loom right below the surface. The emotional impact of joblessness can be huge, and it can cause a downward spiral unless special care is taken.

So how do you build positive momentum after feeling the stinging rejection that often comes with job loss?

Below you will find 12 ways to handle the emotional side of job loss and job search. If you do take special care, you will find yourself bouncing back perhaps to a greater place than you could have ever imagined.

  • Avoid “If only…” Accept where you are in the here and now and focus on what you need to do moving forward. The only reason to look back is to identify and learn from your mistakes. “If only” gets you nowhere. It is a waste of time and energy.

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What is Your Value?

valueWhat would happen if you were blind and someone gave you a $100.00 bill and told you that it was only one dollar?

To you, the value of the piece of paper in your hand would only be $1.00. You would miss the opportunity to buy your mother that new coat for her birthday because it cost $40.00. You would miss the opportunity to replace your holey shoes because you can’t find any at the dollar store. Matter-of-fact, you might even buy a candy bar at the local convenient store and tell the worker to keep the change. (Which might not be a bad thing as long as you can afford a $99.11 tip.)

The point is….The actual value of the $100.00 bill becomes irrelevant because, to you, it is only one dollar. Our self-worth is not so different. Continue reading

Self-acceptance

self-acceptanceSelf-acceptance: Do you accept you?

People often don’t realize that the cause of many physical, social, and emotional problems is the lack of self-acceptance. When people don’t accept themselves, they’re more likely to be anxious, become depressed, and compare themselves to others. They are more likely to be defensive, angry, jealous, and envious. People who are not happy with who they are either have a difficult time admitting mistakes because their flaws make them feel worthless or they go around blaming themselves for the mistakes of others. Continue reading

Letting Go of Harsh Self-Judgments: The Eight Steps to Change…Step 8!

We did it! In a little over two months, we have taken huge steps toward letting go of harsh self-judgments and self-criticism and creating an attitude of self-love and self-compassion.

  • Step 1: Acknowledging that we want to change. 
  • Step 2: Becoming deeply aware of our tendency to put ourselves down. 
  • Step 3: Catching ourselves in the act and telling ourselves to stop. 
  • Step 4: Becoming our own self-parent with gentle reminders to be kind to ourselves. 
  • Step 5: Learning where self-critical messages came from in the first place so that we can begin to challenging the validity of negative thoughts. 
  • Step 6: Viewing ourselves as child in need of love and compassion. 
  • Step 7: Replacing our negative judgments with loving thoughts. 

So what could possibly come after trading those negative judgments for loving thoughts? Isn’t that the goal? Aren’t we done?

Not quite. Becoming and remaining a self-compassionate person is a constant process. Which brings us to the eighth and final step:

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Commit to steps one through seven every day. Remember that you are reprogramming your brain to think differently about you. This means that you must practice regularly. As long as you continue to put down your worth, you have not practiced enough. These things take time and hard work, but let me tell you: You are so worth it!

To review Steps 1-7, see below:

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