Today’s post is a little bit different from my usual posts.
Today, I want to start by thanking all of you who support my blog! Your likes, your comments, your feedback, your blog posts, and your encouragement means so much to me. This blogging thing has been such a neat experience, and I have gotten to know so many amazing people from all over the world. How cool is that? Very cool, I think. So, thank you! You all are very special!
I blog because I want to share what I learn with you, and I want to learn from you (which I do everyday- thank you). I am absolutely passionate about reading and researching. I search for evidence based happy healthy living tips and practices and then share them with you on this blog. Most of you know that I also work as a psychotherapist. Continue reading
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We did it! In a little over two months, we have taken huge steps toward letting go of harsh self-judgments and self-criticism and creating an attitude of self-love and self-compassion.
- Step 1: Acknowledging that we want to change.
- Step 2: Becoming deeply aware of our tendency to put ourselves down.
- Step 3: Catching ourselves in the act and telling ourselves to stop.
- Step 4: Becoming our own self-parent with gentle reminders to be kind to ourselves.
- Step 5: Learning where self-critical messages came from in the first place so that we can begin to challenging the validity of negative thoughts.
- Step 6: Viewing ourselves as child in need of love and compassion.
- Step 7: Replacing our negative judgments with loving thoughts.
So what could possibly come after trading those negative judgments for loving thoughts? Isn’t that the goal? Aren’t we done?
Not quite. Becoming and remaining a self-compassionate person is a constant process. Which brings us to the eighth and final step:
Commit to steps one through seven every day. Remember that you are reprogramming your brain to think differently about you. This means that you must practice regularly. As long as you continue to put down your worth, you have not practiced enough. These things take time and hard work, but let me tell you: You are so worth it!
To review Steps 1-7, see below:
In that small space between the event and your response, remind yourself to “ride the wave of emotion.” When an upsetting even occurs, if we can just stop for a moment, identify the emotions that we are feeling, accept them without judging them, and remind ourselves that they will pass, we may find the courage to endure them for a little while. We can experience our feelings and make rational decisions all at the same time. We just need to make sure we are in wise mind before we respond.