Practices That Lead to a More Fulfilling Life
Don’t Allow Anyone to knock You Down
Don’t Allow Anyone to Knock You Down!
“Somehow we learn who we really are and then live that decision.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
Unfortunately, way too many people learned that they were something that they are not- and then they learned to live with that decision. [Read more...]
Do you know the difference between true intimacy and the fantasy bond? Many people confuse the fantasy bond with true intimacy. Although these two styles of relating may appear similar to outsiders looking in, they are indeed very different. [Read more...]
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A Happiness Tip
Do you want to be happier? You may need to smile. Yes, research shows that smiling can improve your mood. Most of us think that the good mood comes first. You are in a good mood which causes you to smile. Have you ever considered that sometimes it is actually the other way around?
Studies show that the more you smile the happier you feel. This does not mean that you forbid yourself to grieve and walk around with a fake smile every minute of everyday. No, that’s not it at all. But it does mean that if you smile at each person that you meet and smile when you pass a stranger on the street, your mood will improve.
It is also helpful to be aware of the good things in life. If you spend your day taking inventory of the good rather than the bad that surrounds you, you will smile more. Instead of focusing on the traffic that is holding you up, accept that the traffic is beyond your control, and remind yourself of the blessings in your life. Instead of focusing on the people who annoy you, think about the ones who love you.
When you are feeling a lot of stress, you may also want to ask yourself, “Will this really matter one year from now, one month from now, or even one week from now?” Many times just knowing that our distress is temporary can bring a smile to our face. The important thing is to always look at the bigger picture rather than getting sucked up in needless minutiae.
Since we know that smiling improves our mood, you may want to opt for the comedy every now and then. Dramas are great and often have a way of sparking our emotion. But so do comedies. They make us laugh, they make us smile. If you are a drama lover, you might want to try a comedy for a change. It may improve your mood, your happiness, and your health. It will hopefully make you smile.
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Self-compassionate people hold themselves accountable for their actions.
They are not threatened by their mistakes. Because they do not judge themselves harshly, they are able to admit their mistakes. Because they are able to admit their mistakes, they are able to learn from them and own them. Because they own them they are less likely to blame others for them. They are also less likely to deny or rationalize their unacceptable behaviors. [Read more...]
Fighting depression is hard! It requires a lot of work. What may seem like a simple task to someone who is not depressed, may be terribly difficult for someone who is.
If you are feeling depressed, ask yourself, “Am I doing everything that I can to decrease my depression?”
If you do not like the way that you are currently feeling, you may need to do something different, no matter how difficult, to get you snowballing in a different direction.
If you answer no to any of the following questions, you may not be doing enough to decrease your depression. [Read more...]
Author and thought leader, Gabrielle Bernstein discusses people pleasing…There’s a fine line between helping others and being a people pleaser, and mistaking one for the other can be hugely detrimental. When we put others’ needs before our own, we deplete our energy, which can lead to depression, physical illness, and overwhelm.
When we judge our feelings as ”bad” or we tell ourselves that we “shouldn’t” feel a certain way, we are essentially telling ourselves that something is wrong with us. This creates shame, and shame is at the root of self-sabotaging behaviors. Our harsh judgment of our emotions snowballs into something much worse. [Read more...]
Doing what depression makes you feel like doing can have you quickly spiraling down hill in a direction that you never intended to go.
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You are not depression and depression is not you. But depression can attack you. Depression is a sneaky little character that will change the way you think, feel, and behave. Depression is a parasite that attaches itself to you and attempts to suck the life out of you. [Read more...]
It was Cheryl’s thirty-ninth birthday, and Steven was working late again. She had accepted the good, the bad, and the ugly of being married to an emergency room physician a long time ago. Tonight she had fixed a nice dinner for herself and her five-year old twin boys and had especially enjoyed looking at the birthday pictures the kids had colored for her earlier that morning. Shortly after getting the kids into bed, there was a knock at the door. Little did Cheryl know that her entire life was about to change.
Cheryl answered the door, and there stood a man about her age with an angry scowl on his face. The man was very direct and got straight to the point, “Tell your husband to stay away from my wife!” It was then that Cheryl learned about the affair. [Read more...]
Do I have a difficult time not being in a relationship, even if I know that the person that I am with is not good for me?
Do I feel empty inside- especially when I am single?
Do I spend a lot of time trying to “fix” other people?
Am I attracted to very needy people or emotionally distant individuals?
Do I jump from one relationship to another to avoid being alone?
Do I find myself in one-sided relationships- relationships that lack mutual care and compassion?
Do I put a lot more energy into the relationship than my partner?
Do I find myself in abusive relationships?
Do I tend to be the caregiver in my relationships while my needs go unmet? [Read more...]
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