Emotional Regulation for Toddlers

A toddler girl crying

A toddler girl crying (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

You are  in the check out aisle at the grocery store and your little sweet pea sees a lollipop that looks like zebra. You know instantly that you are in BIG trouble. Little Sally not only loves lollipops, she is crazy about zebras.

“Zebra!” she says with bright eyes. You know that this is not going to go well. You do not want her to have the lollipop, and she has already spotted it. Gotta just love those aisles filled with candy, especially if you have a toddler.

“Yes, it is a zebra,” you say.

“I wanna have the zebra,” Sally says,  just a little louder.

“No, we are not getting the zebra today,” you say.

Sally then begins to cry, “I want the zebra!”

You have been here before. Sally is getting ready to enter an emotional hurricane. In several seconds, your little sweet pea will resemble a cyclone in full force. [Read more...]

Parents and the Rise of Psychiatric Medication

Day 88/365 - my prescriptions

Day 88/365 – my prescriptions (Photo credit: Newbirth35)

“Xanax Makes Me a Better Mom,” written by Shawn Bean, Executive Editor of Parenting Magazine, appears in the March 2013 issue. The article discusses the rising number of parents who currently take antidepressant and anti-anxiety medications.

This article reports the following statistics.

1-5 American adults take at least one type of medication to treat behavioral or psychological problems.

21% of fathers will experience one or more episodes of depression by their child’s 12th birthday.

28% of stay at home moms report feeling depressed compared to 17% of working moms.

There has been a 264% rise in psychiatric drug use among women ages 20-44 over the past ten years. [Read more...]

10 Tips for Parents of Young Children

Your children will thank you later.

Dear Mom and Dad,

Although I may not be able to verbalize my feelings just yet, and may not even know what it is that I really want and need from you at this young age, I am going to tell you what I will say to you when I am all grown up.

I will say: [Read more...]

4 Tips to Improve the Communication With Your Child

Do you allow your children to tell you how they are feeling, even if you do not like what they have to say?

or

Do you become angry when you hear them express feelings that are unacceptable to you?

Your child is going to feel the way that they feel whether they tell you or not.  By providing a safe environment for them to express their feelings, you are teaching them the art of healthy communication which will reduce the risk of acting out emotions in destructive ways. [Read more...]

The Power of Encouragement and Positive Expectancy

by Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed., MSW, LCSW

Business Leaders, Educators, and Parents……

You have more power than you may know. By truly believing in someone and encouraging their intellectual, emotional, and spiritual growth, they are more likely to live up to those expectations and grow in positive ways. Positive expectations and encouragement are key…… [Read more...]

Parents: Discipline Without Shame

Written by Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed, MSW, LCSW

What’ers begun in anger ends in shame. -Benjamin Franklin

Katie knocks over the lamp and her mother responds, “How can you be so stupid!” Tony forgets to bring his basketball to practice again. His father yells in front of the team, “What is wrong with you?” Jimmy pushes his brother and his mother remarks, “You are a bad boy!”

What is so damaging about the installation of shame? Shame is more than feeling bad about a behavior; it is feeling bad about who you are as person.

As parents, we need to remember that the goal of discipline is to address our children’s unacceptable behavior and assist them in correcting it. No matter how angry, frustrated, or tired we may be, our children need to know that they are acceptable, even if their behavior is not.  Sometimes our child’s behavior embarrasses us and we may overreact, but we do not want to send a message that they, as a person, are an embarrassment.

When children are shamed by caregivers, their emotional health will suffer. [Read more...]

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