Many of us spend our lives wishing for something that just isn’t. We want to change the past. We want to change another person. We get so caught up in wishing things were different, that we have no energy left to change the things that we can. When our thoughts are consumed with “why me” or “life is so unfair” we stay stuck and miss out on “what is” and “what can be.”
Marsha Linehan, founder of dialectical behavior therapy, uses radical acceptance to help herself and her clients. Radical acceptance is an acceptance that comes from deep within and is free of judgement. It is not saying that something is good or bad, it is saying it just is. When you radically accept something, you stop complaining about it and start doing something to improve your life. Linehan uses the purple room as an example. Continue reading →
English: Two silhouette profiles or a white vase? (an optical illusion) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
COULD IT BE I SEE A FACE AND DISMISS THE VASE?
This morning I read a post written by David Kanigan called “Making Same Mistakes. Certainly.” This post caught my eye right away. It caught my eye for several reasons. One being that I sometimes write about learning from mistakes, yet I definitely have been guilty of making the same mistakes over and over again. If I know that it is in my best interest to learn from my mistakes, then what holds me back from learning from all of them? Continue reading →