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Let Go of Resentment and Turn Your Momentum Around in 2014

2014The new year is a great time to let go of the things that bring you down. Although there may be many things that get in your way and create resistance in your life, nothing will keep you stuck or spiral you down like resentment. The longer you hold on to resentment, the more it will poison you. Let it go! Start new.

Letting go of resentment does not mean that you approve of the actions of another. It does not mean that you find the offense acceptable. It just means that you are ready to set yourself free. Someone may have hurt you in the past, but if you hold a grudge you hurt yourself in the present and the future.

Give yourself a gift as we go into 2014, and let it go!

2014 will be an exciting year for me. In just two weeks, I release my book The Snowball Effect: How to Build Positive Momentum in Your Life. This book will show you how to not only let go of resentment, but to obliterate harsh self-judgments and explosive reactions. It is a book about repairing and building so that you can experience the excellence in you that has been there all along. To find out more about the book, click this link.

I hope that you have a happy healthy new year!

How to Let Go of Resentment

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How to Let Go of Resentment

Is resentment holding you back from living a more peaceful, joyful, and confident life? Do you feel like you have been wronged, judged, or mistreated in some way? Do you ruminate about it and play it over and over in your head? Do you feel your anger increasing the more this internal tape is played?

The purpose of this post is to

  1. Tell you that you are not alone!
  2. Help you let go of resentment.

First of all, you are not alone! People filled with resentment fill the waiting room of the psychotherapy practice where I work everyday. Millions of others are drowning in resentment and get no help at all. We all feel resentment from time to time. We have all been hurt, judged, and rejected at some point in our lives. Unfortunately, this is part of being human. We are going to experience joy and pain as life ebbs and flows.

You may be thinking, “Yes, we all experience pain, but you have no idea what I have been through!” 

You’re right. I don’t. I can’t even imagine! If you told me your situation, I could try to imagine and I could empathize, but I have not experienced the exact same thing as you. Even when two people share a similar experience such as a history of abuse, divorce, infidelity, or the loss of a loved one, their situations differ and they experience the crisis differently.

Although we each experience our pain, anger, and frustration in our own way, and some of us have experienced more trauma and pain than others, we have all been hurt and there are things that we can do to help release the resentment that takes up residence in our hearts and in our minds.

Release the resentment that resides within. The only thing worse than someone else hurting you in the past, is for you to continue to hurt yourself for the rest of your life. Your resentment poisons YOU, not the one who harmed you.

If you are tired of being angry and resentful, here is what you can do. Continue reading

Fourth of July Wishes

kbcjuly4As we enjoy celebrating our nation’s freedom, take a moment to consider the areas of your life where you could stand to let go of old resentments, heal from old hurts and open your heart to change. I encourage you to find personal freedom today.

Most importantly, I encourage you to fully cherish the time spent with family and friends this holiday weekend. And I offer a HUGE “thank you” to our military men and women who have fought for and continue to maintain our liberty!

XOXO-Kristin

Letting Go Of The Chains That Bind

 

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Are you full of resentment because of a past hurt? Don’t let another person live rent free in your heart and in your head.

You cannot alter the past, but you can build on today. Let go of those thoughts of retaliation and use that energy to move forward in a new direction. It is important that you realize that you are no longer a victim, but a strong, resilient human being, capable of amazing things.

Letting go is refusing to allow the harmful act of another to occupy a permanent place in your mind. Letting go is ridding yourself of any venomous negativity that may be traveling through your bloodstream, seeping from your pores, and occupying space where happiness could dwell. It is removing the chains that bind you. Letting go is a precious gift to yourself.

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Are You a People Pleaser?

crowdAuthor and thought leader, Gabrielle Bernstein discusses people pleasing…

There’s a fine line between helping others and being a people pleaser, and mistaking one for the other can be hugely detrimental. When we put others’ needs before our own, we deplete our energy, which can lead to depression, physical illness, and overwhelm.