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12 Ways to Handle the Emotional Side of Job Loss and Job Search

job lossLosing a job or facing rejection after rejection while searching for a job can wreak havoc on your self-esteem. Insecurities come alive, defenses build, anger thrives, depression may even set in. The questions “Am I worthy?” and “Am I good enough?” loom right below the surface. The emotional impact of joblessness can be huge, and it can cause a downward spiral unless special care is taken.

So how do you build positive momentum after feeling the stinging rejection that often comes with job loss?

Below you will find 12 ways to handle the emotional side of job loss and job search. If you do take special care, you will find yourself bouncing back perhaps to a greater place than you could have ever imagined.

  • Avoid “If only…” Accept where you are in the here and now and focus on what you need to do moving forward. The only reason to look back is to identify and learn from your mistakes. “If only” gets you nowhere. It is a waste of time and energy.

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Post Traumatic Growth: Why Do Some Bounce Back?

post traumatic growthA New York Times article written by Jim Rendon discusses “post traumatic growth” and includes five areas of positive transformation following a life changing struggle.

In this post, I share with you those five areas of transformation and explain why some people are able to experience amazing personal growth following trauma while others deteriorate.

Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun, psychologists and researchers at the University of North Carolina studied more than 600 trauma survivors and heard the same thing over and over again.  Continue reading

Great Quotes on Overcoming Obstacles

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“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” -Helen Keller

“Others can stop you temporarily- you are the only one who can do it permanently.” -Zig Ziglar

“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” -Michael Jordan

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals.” -Henry Ford

“A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.” -Christopher Reeve

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

If you are going through a difficult time right now, know your situation will change. You will not feel like this forever. Depending on your situation, your life may be permanently altered, but eventually your pain will decrease, opportunities will present themselves, and you will find joy again.  xoxo Kristin



When You Face Difficult Times

1jKEiUdUU9uSMNEACYivHzl72eJkfbmt4t8yenImKBXEejxNn4ZJNZ2ss5Ku7CxtWhen you face difficult times, break through opportunities will present themselves- if you are willing to see them. If you are willing to embrace the pain, refuse to give up, and continue to move forward- doors will open- doors to amazing possibilities.

When you are facing tremendous adversity and the obstacles seem insurmountable, when you are feeling defeated, hopeless, and just want to give up- it is then that you must remember that your situation and your intense pain are temporary.

After a death, a break up, a financial hardship- after the loss of a job, the loss of a marriage, or the loss of a dream, your life may be forever changed. But new doors will open. And if you are willing to be patient, have faith, keep going, and remain open to possibilities, you WILL find joy again.

Graphic Quote Source: http://toddlohenry.com/2013/04/09/when-you-face-difficult-times/


Life Stories

Skip’s Story

real raceSkip Wilkins was a friend of my dads.  He made a lasting impression on me, my dad, and many others around the world.  His story is one of acceptance and resiliency.  It is one of making the most out of life, regardless of your circumstances.  It is one of hope.  It is one of perseverance and determination.  Skip truly was an inspiration.

In high school, Skip was a football player and a track and field star.  His senior year, he received over twenty recruitment letters from college football coaches.  His future looked bright.

He would not go on to play college ball.  Three days after his high school graduation, he injured his spinal cord in a waterskiing accident, leaving him permanently paralyzed from the waist down.  He was left with some mobility in his arms and little control over his hands. Continue reading