Tag Archives: the shame that binds

Is Shame at the Root of Your Pain?

shameIs Shame at the Root of Your Pain?

My client remembers being shamed in the fourth grade. She was standing outside of her school with several friends and their parents after a holiday musical program. She said that her mother looked down on her smiling face and announced in front of the group, “What are we going to do with those teeth? They are such a mess!” My client said that the group they were standing with immediately got quiet and everyone glanced at her mouth. She said that while the other parents were raving about the program, her mother was calling attention to her flaws and imperfections. She remembers wanting to hide. Continue reading

Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

worthWe are often our own worst enemy.

We often consciously or unconsciously sabotage ourselves because we do not think that we deserve to be successful in life.  We may have made mistakes in the past that we have been unable or unwilling to forgive.

We may self-sabotage by habitually selling ourselves short, thinking that our goals and dreams are unreachable.  We may discount our own internal resources and deny our own personal strengths.  We may unconsciously sabotage situations and relationships that are really good for us.

There are many different ways in which we can self-sabotage. Continue reading